LVH Guide - A to Z of sex!
Think you’re across everything you need to know about sex? Well it’s time to think again. Here’s the dictionary they didn’t show you in high school.
Below is the complete, no nonsense and unfettered LVH Guide to all things related to sex, sexuality and gender. We hope you find it a helpful, fun and informative read!
Abstinence - Also known as celibacy, abstinence refers to refraining from any kind of sexual activity. Some people choose to remain abstinent - so refraining from sex - until they are married. Basically the stance is: you can’t tap it, until you put a ring on it
Agender - Just a quick reminder: the prefix ‘a’ means ‘without’, so agender means an absence of any feelings of affiliation towards any gender.
Anal sex - This one’s pretty simple. It involves stimulating the anus with the fingers, a toy or a penis during sex.
Anorgasmia - A much less cool definition than others included here; anorgasmia is the inability to orgasm. And it’s a lot more common than you might think. A 2004 study by the University of Texas found that 24% of participants experienced some kind of orgasmic dysfunction.
Asexual - Asexual can mean different things to different people, but generally it means the absence of sexual feelings or associations.
Autosexual - Quite simply, being autosexual means you are sexually attracted or turned on by yourself.
Biromantic - Similar, but somewhat different, to bisexuality. A biromantic person is capable of feeling a romantic connection or being romantically attracted to people of multiple genders.
Bisexual - As you are no doubt aware, bisexuality describes those who are sexually attracted to both males and females.
Blowjob - Ah come on, you know this one. A blowjob is when someone puts their partner’s penis in their mouth to suck and lick it for their partner’s pleasure. AKA a ‘BJ’, ‘oral’ or ‘going down on’ another person.
Bondage - A form of sexual role play that emphasises submission, dominance and elements of power play.
Cervix - The entrance to the uterus. The sex gatekeeper, if you will.
Clitoris - Aah, the magic button. The clitoris is the centre of pleasure for those with female genitals. It is located where the labia minora (the inner lips) meet above the vagina. Home to around 8,000 nerve endings, the “clit” is extremely sensitive and how many people achieve orgasm.
Conception - Where sperm meets and fertilises an egg in a uterus.
Consent - Someone saying ‘yes’ to any kind of sexual activity without force or threat. NO ONE should feel pressured to take part in something they don’t want to, nor undertake a sexual act reluctantly either. Remember, aim for enthusiasm.
Contraception - Describes a number of methods, devices and products which can be used to protect against pregnancy and STIs. AKA, ‘birth control’.
Cunnilingus - A term a lot less well known than ‘blowjob’, in our opinion, cunnilingus is oral sex performed on someone with female genitalia. Primarily focused on stimulating the clitoris. Need to up your oral game? Check out our tips on oral sex that’ll have your partner begging for more.
Demiromantic - A demiromantic is someone who can only experience a romantic attraction after they have developed an emotional connection for that person.
Doggy style - If you don’t know this one then you need to dive straight into an adventure with Lady Victoria. Doggy style involves one partner lying on their stomach or getting on their hands and knees to be penetrated, either vaginally or anally.
Dyspareunia - The medical term for painful intercourse, which could appear in the vagina, abdomen, vulva or general pelvic region.
Ejaculation - This is the real word for ‘come’, and happens when a penis-owner reaches orgasm and results in semen being expelled from the penis. Sounds a great deal less sexy when you say it like that, right?
Erection - You definitely know this one. An erection is when blood fills the penis causing it to stiffen and lengthen. Pretty much a requirement for P in V sex. Also known as a ‘stiffy’, ‘boner’, or ‘hard-on’.
Erogenous zones - There are numerous different parts of the body that, when stimulated, will elicit sexual arousal. Erogenous zones can be completely different from person to person!
Erotica - Ooh our favourite. Erotica is any kind of material - it could be a visual film, artwork or an erotic novel - that deals with subject matter that is sexually arousing or stimulating. But it's not porn. Oh it's so much better than porn.
Fellatio - It’s the posher name for a blowjob.
Fingering - Stimulating a vagina and clitoris with the fingers. Mainly pleasurable, even if it sounds uncomfortable!
Foreplay - Quite the umbrella term, foreplay refers to any kind of erotic stimulation that doesn’t involve intercourse. This could be fingering or oral sex. Think of it as a precursor to full sex to build up your arousal and get you more in the mood.
Gay - The general term used to describe someone who is attracted to someone of the same sex.
Gender non-conforming - Quite a broad umbrella term that refers to anyone or anything that challenges or rejects traditional gender expectations.
Genderfluid - Someone whose gender shifts between masculine and feminine.
Genderqueer - Someone who does not subscribe to the conventional distinction of gender. Instead they may identify as neither, bot, or a combination of male and female.
Genitals - Refers to the sexual organs located in the pelvic region, regardless of gender identity.
G-spot - A rather elusive area just inside and forward of the female genitalia - the G-spot sits just inside the vagina and can be a great source of pleasure.
Hand job - A casual term that refers to stimulating a penis with one or both hands.
Heteroflexible - Sometimes characterised as “mostly straight”, heteroflexible is a form of orientation where a person can display minimal homosexual tendencies in their otherwise primarily heterosexual life.
Heterosexual - Someone who is attracted to members of the opposite sex.
Hickey - Never been a horny teen? Also known as a ‘lovebite’, hickeys are created when a person lightly sucks on their partner’s skin to create a small, but temporary, bruise.
Homosexual - Someone who is attracted to members of the same sex.
Horny - Describes someone who is feeling ‘turned on’ or sexually aroused. Signs of being horny include an increased heart rate, dilated pupils, a lubricated (or wet) vagina, and an erect penis.
Impotence - When someone with a penis is unable to get or maintain an erection.
Intercourse - Typically refers to P (penis) in V (vagina) sex.
Jizz - Do we really need to go into this one? A very casual term for ejaculation from a penis.
Kissing - Oh, come on. When two people (or more) use their mouths to kiss one another. They could kiss each other’s mouths (sounds sexy, right?) or kiss other parts of their body.
Labia - The ‘lips’ of the vulva.
Lesbian - Women who are sexually attracted to other women.
Libido - Quite a clinical term for a person’s sexual drive.
Lust - An intense desire or craving for sexual gratification.
Masturbation - When a person self-stimulates their own genitals to feel pleasure or to reach orgasm. Not just something undertaken by singletons, masturbation is a healthy habit that everyone should practice. Did you know it has great mental health benefits?
Missionary - The person doing the penetrating, could be someone with a penis or using a strap-on, lies on top of their partner who is on their back. Often referred to as a ‘vanilla’ position, missionary gets a bad rap that it really doesn’t deserve. It’s actually an incredible position for intimacy and eye contact.
Monogamy - Those who practice monogamy only have one sexual or romantic partner at a time.
Mutual masturbation - Also known as ‘dry sex’, mutual masturbation can either involve you and your partner masturbating alone but together, watching one another for visual stimulation. Or you could use your hands and masturbate each other at the same time. Did someone say hot?
Nipples - The raised skin in the centre of each breast. They are often darker, harder and can be a source of great pleasure when stimulated.
Nonbinary - The overall term that refers to any gender identity that doesn’t fit the traditional male and female binary system.
Omnisexual - Similar to pansexuality, omnisexuality refers to someone who is attracted to all genders, but gender does still play a role in that attraction.
Oral sex - When one person uses their mouth to stimulate the genitals of their partner.
Orgasm - The peak of sexual stimulation, also known as ‘coming’ or climaxing. When you masturbate, receive oral sex or have intercourse and you feel pleasure building, orgasm refers to the moment that pleasure comes to hand - for want of a better phrase - and you feel a great release of pleasure that may involve the whole body.
Orgy - Group sex that involves five or more people.
Pansexual - A sexual orientation where someone is not limited by biological sex, gender or another person’s gender identity.
Penis - The main part of the ‘male’ genitalia. It is made up of two parts: the glans (tip) and the shaft. The latter contains the urethra which is how urine and semen exits the body.
Prostate - Part of the male reproductive system, the prostate gland is where nutrients that support sperm are made.
Polysexual - A person who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to multiple genders.
Quim - A slang, and not altogether very nice word, for female genitals.
Queef - We’ve all been there. It’s the expulsion of air that has been trapped in the vagina and can happen during a workout or after you’ve had something inside you.
Rhythm method - A very unreliable method of contraception that involves separating genitals before the moment of ejaculation. It’s not only ineffective against STIs, but doesn’t take into account the variation of a person’s menstrual cycle and fertile window, which can vary from month to month. It’s extremely hit and miss!
Rimming - Also known as ‘analingus’, this involves orally stimulating the anus to give pleasure.
Safe sex - Taking steps to prevent pregnancy and STI transmission during sex, usually involving a condom. Remember, no method is 100% effective.
Sixty-nine - Maybe it’s better if we write it like this: 69. This is a sexual position which lines up two partner’s genitals and mouths for simultaneous oral sex.
STI - Stands for Sexually Transmitted Infections, that are passed from one person to another during sexual activity. Condoms are the best way to prevent transmission, but this isn’t 100% guaranteed.
Squirting - During sex, people with vulvas may experience an involuntary emission of fluid. Also known as “female ejaculation” but not everyone with a vulva identifies as female, nor does everyone who identifies as female have a vulva. Squirting is a bit of an elusive occurrence that, thanks to porn, is seen as a bit of a party trick. Don’t squirt? No problem, just enjoy the ride.
Teabagging - The sexual act where a penis owner places their scrotum in the mouth of their partner lying underneath. Yeah, we’ll stick to Earl Grey if it’s alright with you.
Testicles - A.K.A ‘nuts’ or ‘balls’. They hang between the legs and are responsible for producing sperm. An important part of the reproductive system!
Thigh job - A sexual act where someone’s genitals, usually a penis, is stimulated by the thighs of their partner.
Threesome - Group sex involving three people.
Transgender - Someone whose gender identity differs from the one they were assigned at birth.
Uterus - An internal part of the female reproductive system. It is where a foetus grows when the uterus’ owner is pregnant.
Urethra - The tube from the bladder where pee is expelled from the body. And yes, it is a separate hole from the vagina.
Vagina - Speaking of. The vagina is a female internal sex organ that starts at the outside of the body, the vaginal opening, and ends at the cervix, the entrance to the uterus.
Vibrator - A sex toy that is used to stimulate and give pleasure.
Virgin - Someone who has never had sexual intercourse. The word and idea of a virgin has come under a lot of criticism for being a concept fabricated by society and, as it is treated differently for men and for women, we can tell you that it is no indication of a person’s value or worth.
Vulva - The term for female external genitalia.
Wet dream - When a penis owner ejaculates in their sleep.
X-rated - Types of print or film media, usually pornography, that is normally associated with mature adults. It is likely to include sexually graphic or explicit scenes of sex.
Yes - As in you agree with someone, as in a form of consent. Never let someone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. And remember, yes now doesn’t mean yes to everything; you reserve the right to change your mind at any point!
Zzzz - As in sleep. No real connection to sex other than you need plenty of energy to get down and dirty.
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